How To Be A Sexy Plus Size Woman

You are getting ready to walk into this amazing event that you’ve been waiting on for months. As you glide towards the crowded room of people already engaging in conversation, you catch a glance of yourself in the mirror on your left. You look at your hair, then your makeup, then the black dress which hugs your plus size frame ever so slightly, then finally to the black point toe strappy pumps you knew would complete the outfit just right. Suddenly, a smile comes across your face as you pivot to the right getting ready to enter the room with your very own Beyoncé wind blowing through your tresses.

Not one time did you doubt yourself, even when you were checking for flaws. You know you look good, and you’re thankful that you finally have the confidence to embrace your looks. You are gorgeous just the way you are, and you no longer need permission from others to feel this way.

Some people don’t expect plus size women to feel or even be perceived as sexy.

We are in an era where plus size women are noticing that they don’t need permission to enjoy their bodies, or to feel good about themselves. We are seeing more of the message on how plus size women can be anything they want to be…even sexy!

If this is your first time hearing that plus size women can be sexy, then I am happy to be the one to break it down to you. Keep reading if you’ve never found yourself to be sexy, but you want to learn how…

Dress – Similar here & here | Shoes – ASOS & similar in lower heel size | Bracelet – Similar | Earrings – Similar | Lip color – Covergirl All Nighter

Work on Your Confidence

Before you can see yourself as sexy, you have to first work on your confidence. See yourself for who you really are and enjoy the body that you have today. I know we all have things we want to work on regarding the way we look, but if you don’t love yourself now how will you guarantee that you will love yourself after you have made what ever change you wanted to make?

I wrote a post not too long ago discussing how to be a confident plus size woman. If you notice that you are lacking in confidence, you should definitely read that post first.

Dress In What Makes You Feel Good

One thing I’ve learned is that you can’t feel sexy in clothes you are not confident nor comfortable in. This is the perfect time to pay close attention to what types of clothes you like and why.

For instance, if you love wearing skinny jeans or mini dresses, pay attention to why you like them. Maybe you really love the shape of your legs, and skinny jeans and mini dresses really show those legs off. If that is the case, start really embracing your legs in your outfits.

When you want to feel sexy, always focus on the good things you love about yourself, not the so called flaws you harp over from time to time. If you love your legs, play off that. If you’re proud of your butt, accentuate that. In your outfits, play on the body parts you find to be sexy about yourself so you can always feel good in what you’re wearing.

Keep Good Posture & A Great Smile

There is nothing more sexy than great posture and a beautiful smile. These two aspects can really help you be seen when walking in a crowded room. Great posture not only helps you look more polished, but it exudes confidence. It can even be given off in the way you stand

The simplest “sexy” stands are resting on your back leg with your front leg bent, and your palms clasped together with your arms straight down in front. The other great stand is standing with your legs crossed at the ankles, and your hands clasped while resting under your breasts.

A sweet smile is just like the icing on the cake. Of course this is not something you have to do in order to feel sexy, but I have found that it helps. And let’s face it, when you want to seem approachable, smiling helps in letting others know you are open for conversation.

Humble Thyself

Confidence is such a beautiful gift. If you truly possess it, no one can take it from you, and you would love to help others feel the same way. Being sexy doesn’t mean wearing sexy clothes. You don’t have to be naked or show everything God has given you in order to be seen as sexy. It is a state of mind, and a level of confidence that makes you sexy.

It’s ok to walk in a room knowing you are not the prettiest one there. It’s empowering to see another woman with a banging outfit, so give her a compliment and let her know she looks amazing. You don’t have to be the best out there. Be the best version of yourself and empower other women along the way.

-Ashley